How your personality and attitude can play a part

A big part of being a successful cam girl is having some basic people skills. This means that you need to find the right balance of being fun and professional. You need to make sure that you treat your clients well and don't overstep it either by being too impersonal or behaving in an unprofessional manner. You should avoid being rude, too distant, whiny, aggressive, or offensive.

It's typically advised that you don't become friends with your viewers. This is because you're essentially supposed to have a strictly professional relationship with them. However, it's actually quite common for models to get regular users who choose them for shows, and who even become friends. It's a fine line, but make sure that if you do become closer with your clients, you still manage to keep it professional. After all, they are paying you and you're providing them services.

There are cases where models severely overstep this line, and begin to act inappropriately with their clients. This includes behavior like harassment, complaining, begging, or sharing information that should be kept secret. This is very unprofessional, and you should be careful not get too careless when working.

How a cam girl + client relationship should look like

The profession of a cam girl is a difficult one in some aspects. How do you keep it professional, when the entire purpose of the job is to get intimate? This is an issue that every single person in the industry comes across, and we're going to help you find the right balance so that you can confidently go forward in your work. First off, you can decide whether you'll take an absolutely hands-off impersonal relationship with your clients, or if you're willing to have a more casual relationship with them. There is a stereotype that sometime exists for cam girls, which assumes that they're like your typical sex worker—aggressive and manipulative. This is far from the truth, and you should know that webcam models are actually one of the best examples of how an interpersonal relationship between a client and a businessperson can look like. It all comes down to the right balance—staying professional while giving the best intimate and personal experience to your viewer.

This can become challenging when you come across a specific type of person that could make your work more difficult than expected. For example, there are some men out there who feel like they shouldn't pay any money in order to get attention from a woman. Unfortunately, this is why a good portion of guys choose to seek the service of cam girls. This can make some of them somewhat aggressive and demanding when it comes to what you can provide them. Another group of men agrees that they should in fact pay for your services, but once you become friendly with them, they shouldn't have to pay anymore. If you don't agree to do your job for free, they accuse you of being a whore, who only wanted to become “friendly” for money. Unfortunately, much of the advertising for cam sites endorses this idea, that initially they have to pay for your services, but later on, it's just a free thing that can enjoy without having to pay. This, in turn, makes the cam girl have to continuously explain how her services are actually unnatural, and should be reimbursed with payment. Many times, a cam girl will become disappointed when she finds out that one of her loyal clients has decided that they are now on such good interpersonal terms, that he doesn't want to pay her anymore.

Generally speaking, most cam girls support the notion of becoming friendlier with their clients, but they do have some reservations when it comes to a particular group of cam site members. The key here is to be vigilant and sensitive to who really deserves your friendship and who you can create closer ties with. If you feel uncomfortable or threatened in any way, you should try to keep the ties between you and a client more distant and professional. Sometimes, the clients that you get are simply men who feel like they have been mistreated by women in the past, and expect something more from you than what you can legally and comfortably give them. Just try to keep this in mind before feeling too offended or coerced into doing something that you feel uncomfortable with.

How to deal with negative behavior and stay professional

It is often difficult to keep the right balance in staying professional and intimate when dealing with clients. You don't want to seem cold and calculated, but you also want to avoid falling on the other side of the extreme—too vulnerable and easily manipulated.

There are times when cam girls feel like they have formed such a solid relationship with one of their clients that they begin to behave very intimately with them, or to share personal information that they would otherwise keep to themselves. This is especially true for sharing negative feelings and opinions, which some models even choose to share publicly. They could post something like, “Ugh-camera wasn't working today. My job sucks!”. It's better to keep these kinds of concerns to your close friends and family rather than to post them for everyone to see. Otherwise, you might accidentally make a bad impression on potential clients. It's perfectly normal to have a bad day and to express your feelings about it, but please remember to keep this offline. There is absolutely no doubt about it that negativity simply does not work in this job. It certainly won't benefit the cam girl, nor the client, so please try to member to keep it positive.

There are also some situations in which a model tries to manipulate her clients into giving her guilty or pity tips. For example, she could say something like, “I'm so ugly, I guess it's normal that I don't get tips”. You should definitely avoid this kind of behavior, as it is very unlikely to actually get you any tips, and will actually just push your clients away. You should only ever resort to negativity if your client specifically asks for it, or if there are special circumstances in which you feel like it is truly the right thing to do. Generally speaking however, it's seen as anti-productive and will definitely do more harm than good. Remember that cam site users are looking to you to give them a time where they can enjoy themselves and not feel uncomfortable or offended.

The best way to present yourself on camera

While cam girls typically choose an alternate persona that they present themselves as online, they don't necessarily have to become a completely different person for their clients. Models often are in contact with users throughout the day, and they may find a bit difficult to constantly turn on and off their “stage self”. Typically, it's better for cam girls to just be themselves on camera and to just feel at ease and relaxed. The only thing that they need to keep in mind is just to stay professional and perhaps enhance themselves a bit for viewers by being more engaging and entertaining.

Sometimes, models to decide to purposely act a certain way in order to give their stage persona a bit more of a particular character. They could behave in stern or harsh way towards their clients, while others can act more shy or innocent than they actually are in real life.

The best thing to do is to simply be whatever you feel most comfortable with when interacting with your clients. Just make sure that you figure out before how you'll act in certain situations that might require you deal with drama or problems. This will help keep you from accidentally embarrassing yourself and creating more unneeded problems, as well as potentially hurting your online reputation. There are really no set rules as to how to deal with issues that may come up, but here are a few ways that many cam girls manage things:

• Trolls- This depends on the particular cam girl. Some are immediately aggressive and may verbally attack or belittle them.
• Clients who are excessively demanding or behave in an overly needy way-In these situations, cam girls typically go for one of two options: cut him off or to humor him in some way.
• Camera issues-Dealing with things like a bad camera shift, for example, can reflect on the way a model feels about herself and behave with her clients. Some cam girls will react negatively and begin to complain, while others brush it off, use some humor, and try to make the best of the situation.
• Paying attention to your earnings on camera-this is also a situation where cam girls are divided. Some are constantly paying attention to their earning, sales, and countdowns during shows. Others, are more relaxed when on camera, and don't talk about the issue of payment during a show.

How to handle negative situations and share them with others

Typically, models do not share personal information or news from their lives with their clients. However, sometimes a big event comes up in their life that overwhelms them and they feel the need to share it with others, including their clients. If something like this happens to you, you need to remember to ask yourself if this is really necessary, and to seek out people in your private life to express your feelings and concerns to.

If you do feel like you need to express what's going on in your life to your clients, you can still do so in a subtle way, and in a non-negative manner. Even if what you're going through is more negative than positive, you don't have present it in an off-putting way.

Here are some ways that you can mention your problems or life issues to your clients, without making it seem like your emotionally manipulating them or whining:

• Try not to phrase things in a way that makes your clients feel pressured in some way. Avoid statements like “I hope that at least camming with you will help me feel better today about what's going on.”
• When bringing up life issues to your clients, try to state them in a clear, objective way. For example, “I wanted to let you know that I may not be on camera as often this week. The reason for this is ___.”
• When talking about these kinds of issues, try to use the right tone and attitude. Don't be overly emotional or use the wrong kind of language.

If your situation is caused by a problem with one your clients, it's often tempting to share what's going on publicly or with other viewers. Perhaps a member is antagonizing you or simply making you upset in some way. Try not to vent about this issue with your other clients, and, again, look for a source that you can share your emotions with in your private life rather than on a cam site.

How to keep up a professional appearance

Many times, models are somehow involved in their camming work all day—from morning to night. They wake up and check their social media and e-mail, and go to bed often still replying to messages or finishing up shows. This doesn't necessarily mean that they are camming every single hour of the day, it just means that their work can come up at literally any time.

This very often means that cam girls are particularly connected to other people in the cam site community, and can often exchange their thoughts, experiences, and emotions with them. This is great in general, and a way to get support while on the job. On the other hand, models may find it difficult to hold back from expressing themselves in negative ways and can potentially damage relationships or their online reputation.

Some girls feel comfortable and effective to express themselves via social media outlets like Twitter. Other models feel less at ease doing so, or may even notice how sharing too much—especially negative things—can actually harm their careers and stump their earnings.

In order for you to keep up a positive, stable image as a model, then there are several things that you can keep in mind:

• Make sure that you find someone or some place where you can express your thoughts, opinions, and emotions—both negative and negative—that is away from the actual online camming world. This could be a family member or friend, or even an online forum or support site for cam girls or sex industry workers.
• Try to stay away from social media when you feel a wave of negative emotions. This is typically not a good combination.
• Before you post something online, ask yourself whether this will be helpful to you, will it make your clients happy, will you feel good about posting this in the future, etc.
• Before you choose to have an emotional outburst, try to find your calm and inner peace, and look for other ways to deal with the situation. Are strong, potentially damaging emotions really the most effective way to handle this? Perhaps you can talk the problem out with someone, or take some time to cool down and deal with the problem in a more rational way.
• Make it your goal to pay more attention to all of the positive events and thoughts that come up throughout your day, and try to build on them. It will make both your job, and your life in general, much more enjoyable.
• If you run into an unpleasant situation in which someone is being rude, aggressive, or acting trollish, try to think of the most effective, peaceful way to handle the problem. Instead of attacking them back or feeling overly offended, simply ignore them, or try to make light of the issue.

How and when to say “no”

Sometimes, cam girls will feel like their boundaries are being pushed a bit too far. In these situations, they often feel the need to simply say NO. It may, however, be difficult to actually be this direct and turn a member away, but you need to remember that there are times when the situation really calls for it, and when you need to put your health and safety first.

Please remember that it is a cam girl's right to say no. Unfortunately, there are some people out there who don't share much sympathy for models, and it is possible for these kinds of users to take advantage of you on some level. Even if a client isn't physically in contact with you, or you can't even see him, it's possible for them to make you feel violated or abused in some way. There are times when cam girls say that someone has left them feeling “dirty” or has driven them to tears because of something they said or did. Typically, this involves some kind of sexual violation—which, believe it or not, can happen if you're not even physically near a person.

It's easy to think that this issue is not actually a very big deal, and it is easy to deal with, or just plain silly. However, these situations are really not easy to handle at all, and require a certain awareness and reaction from the model. Some users might think that if a model does not like something, she should just switch off her computer. In reality, many cam girls do not know how to react in these situations, or they may be unable to simply do as she wants because she is working for a studio which requires that she complies to certain rules, she could be afraid of the particular member, or she may simply be desperate for earnings. A cam girl could be scared of saying no to members who threaten her in any way, by saying that they will stalk her, attack, doxx her, or report her if she doesn't agree to do as they ask.

You also need to keep in mind that there are some members out there who intentionally seek out less experienced or vulnerable-looking girls in order to manipulate them or make them do things that the model would not agree to otherwise. In many instances, girls in these situations will feel to afraid or paralyzed to say no. These are a few things to keep in mind if you are facing an aggressive or manipulative client:

• Make sure that you are fully aware of your cam site's rules and policies. Know what your rights are, and what you can and can not do. This also includes knowing what will get you penalized. Before a client threatens you by saying that your site will ban you if you don't do 'such and such', make sure that you know whether he's actually right or not.
• If you're camming and you feel like things are really getting out of hand, it is absolutely okay for you to just turn off your computer and get away from it for a while to calm down.
• It can sometimes be extremely unpleasant and uncomfortable being forced to perform sexual acts just for the sake of money. If you feel particularly put off by a certain request, it is perfectly fine to say no. There are plenty of other cam girls out there who fill a wide spectrum of sexual tolerance.
• To be perfectly clear, if something makes you just feel wrong or uncomfortable, you really do not need to give your client a reason. You simply say that you don't fell like doing what they request, or that you just don't want to talk to them. There is no need to justify how you feel.
• There are some clients who intentionally look for loopholes in order to take advantage of you. They may try to convince you that you have to do something, and that if you didn't clearly say that you won't do it before the show, then it is implied that you will do what they ask. These types can make cam girls even feel guilty and accuse them of lying or tricking them. This is far from the truth, and it is actually the clients in these situations are being dishonest and manipulative.
• Occasionally, clients—especially those that feel like you have a particularly close relationship with them—will suggest or ask that you give them something for free. They may not be doing this out of malice, but they are still overstepping their privileges as a site member. Remember to ask for your deserved payment or tokens for any content or services that you provide.

Rude or uncomfortable situations in which clients force you to do something you do not feel okay with can occasionally happen offline as well. Just because you are not on live camera does not mean that members will be unable to harass you in some way. Unfortunately, situations like these are slightly more difficult to deal with then live cam sessions, and members may find it easier to argue or barter with you.

Sometimes, cam girls make the mistake that giving subtle hints, or turning a member down indirectly will send the message of “no”, loud and clear. A model can, for example, say that she doesn't think that she can fulfill a client's request at the moment, but that she'll think about it and he can get back to her later on. To the girl, this is an obvious message that she is not interested in the activity, while to the client it could literally mean what she said—that she may do it, just at a later time. Unfortunately, this could even make some members more interested and they may get the faulty impression that you are just “playing hard to get”.

In reality, it is much better to be as direct as possible with members. You run the risk of leading a client on if your message is not clear enough, which can ultimately just lead to more problems. If you feel uncomfortable, just be honest and say no as directly as possible.

You should not feel like you need to explain or justify your answer. The client may keep pushing you and arguing, but save yourself the time and energy, and simply walk away. If you give in to doing something that you don't feel okay with, you will ultimately only hurt yourself and feel like you've been used and mistreated. Remember to keep your dignity and respect yourself first.